The WinShape Marriage Podcast

How To Apologize to Your Spouse | Dr. Gary Chapman

Episode Summary

When you apologize, what do you typically say or do? When someone apologizes to you, what do you want to hear them say or do? These questions were the basis for Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Jennifer Thomas’ book, “The 5 Apology Languages.” Last season’s episode with Dr. Gary Chapman was well loved by you all, so he’s back on today’s episode to unpack the five apology languages. Just like you are likely to receive love differently than your spouse, you also probably experience apologies differently. Part of the “problem” you’re experiencing during conflict may just be a misunderstanding on how to apologize to one another. Listen to today’s episode with Dr. Chapman to understand this concept. Apologies are essential to long-term healthy relationships, and we want to set you up for success.

Episode Notes

When you apologize, what do you typically say or do? When someone apologizes to you, what do you want to hear them say or do? These questions were the basis for Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Jennifer Thomas’ book, “The 5 Apology Languages.” Last season’s episode with Dr. Gary Chapman was well loved by you all, so he’s back on today’s episode to unpack the five apology languages. Just like you are likely to receive love differently than your spouse, you also probably experience apologies differently. Part of the “problem” you’re experiencing during conflict may just be a misunderstanding on how to apologize to one another. Listen to today’s episode with Dr. Chapman to understand this concept. Apologies are essential to long-term healthy relationships, and we want to set you up for success.

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Time Stamps:

(1:23) How The 5 Love Languages influenced other work by Dr. Chapman

(3:21) What specifically inspired The 5 Apology Languages

(5:22) Why should you apologize?

(6:48) Expressing regret

(8:07) Accepting responsibility

(10:44) Making restitution

(12:12) Genuinely repenting

(15:14) Requesting forgiveness

(19:05) Can you have more than one apology language?

(20:19) Should you teach your children all five of the apology languages?

(21:50) Is it ever too late to learn your apology language?

(22:58) One key takeaway from this conversation

(27:48) Can you utilize the apology languages for all types of transgressions, small and big?

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Links:

The 5 Love Languages https://5lovelanguages.com/ 

“The 5 Apology Languages” https://5lovelanguages.com/store/the-5-apology-languages 

The Apology Language Quiz https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language 

WinShape Marriage Website https://marriage.winshape.org/

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